Monday, August 7, 2017

The Great Balancing Act

Why do all the chapters end the same? Is it because it has the same characters playing the same parts? 
Authors have it easy, one day they just invent a scene where suddenly someone is gone. Poof, they move far away, get ran over, a rabid dog eats them, a terrorist disembowels them and feeds them their liver until the choke and die.
Oh but in the real world the bully lives the life a roach. It never dies, it crawls from the sewer to  show up when you least expect it. Bullys are immortal. It's not enough to take your childhood they want you unhappy your whole life. 
This chapter opens with us out checking our cows. A new person is added to our character list. A man that wants to live off the grid. He is intrigued with cattle and an animal lover. So we bond. Well it happens, we pay him monthly to keep on eye on the water and cows as it is calving season. Perfect. Now we can come up every four days and feel secure in the safety of our cattle. 
Oh but wait a bonus, he converts to the same religion as us. Now we have more in common as we visit. What fun to watch a new convert's perspective. 
Then he meets the Roach. 
The roach works him like all others that cross my path. 

This is a text I recieved recently from the friend we paid to watch our cattle. Our employee that we paid, lent our quad to, hauled water to, and paid for his gas.

No sign of calf. . But the fence was torn down .big mess. .put back together. .there r not here..no atv to go back in there to check.     . . Please send me steves email address. I deleted all his crap..want to tell I dont want to work  for them. .im happy right were I'm at..work ing  for you 

So he has been working for both of us. 

The Lord had warned us. I just couldn't do anything without proof. And there it is. Luckily we had picked up our quad a few days before this so we could do a maintenance on it. But as we picked up ours we learned he had a quad from them.

He has been watching our cows of late but before the rains I never got a report my water was low. And it was. 
Only after the roach was able to kick me off water is when he has been reporting in.
I think but it is just me thinking out loud, he is trying to figure out where we are getting water from. His other employer wants to make sure we aren't stealing it from them.
We aren't. The Lord had provided. The rains have come and the rocks are holding water.
Oh my. The Great Author from above, has sent blessings in the most wondrous way.
Even after the blessings dry up we can get water without stealing it. So Roach crawl back into your sewer.
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This was my answer to his text.

The Lord has told me for a long time that you have also been working for Steve. I know you have tried to stay neutral. You have know things that could of saved me heart ache. Being loyal to two different parties only brings on betrayal to you and both parties. I wasn't asking you to pick sides just watch after our cattle. You are now, and I thank you. But for previous months you have done nothing but watch gates and clear the road for ward members. I had found water real low before the rains but you never alerted us to it. 
You have other options to contact Steve, but maybe you should hold off because you no longer 
work for us.
I have been betrayed by too many for too long.

And his last text

Ginny thats not true  .I had to. See for myself. Make my own decision.  I. Have kept my word. But if that is how you feel  Idont want to argue with you.its too bad you dont  beleive me. I cant change that.  Tom said he would make a deposit  for me today . Honour that , an we. Will. Go our separate ways an remain  friends..but my heart is broken now .   God. Bless. And. Take. Care  

No sorrow, no apology, just looking for his pay.

He is a sweet sweet man. But if you listen to roaches you may not like the result.


All Bullies Are Narcissists - The Atlantic
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/281407/

Bullies, like narcissists, don’t emerge from happy childhoods, secure in their parents’ love and imbued with a sense of their own worth. 

Frenemies (narcissists) and mutual friends – In Bad Company
https://www.google.com/amp/s/inbadcompanyinc.wordpress.com

The reality of frenemies and narcs is that they will try their hardest to take your mutual friends and turn them against you.  They want the mutual friends on their side for several reasons:
  • mutual friends are a source of info about you and therefore a way to control you
  • it is a competition for them – “I have all the friends on my side!  I won!”
  • they want to punish you for leaving them or not giving them narc supply (stroke their ego)